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Home?

by sminchin ^Pro @ 2008-02-17 – 17:25:57

Where is 'home'?

- Is home where your heart is? ~~And what defines where your heart is? Mine tends to stay in my chest~~

- Is home where you were born / where you grew up?

- Is home where your family is? What if your family is scattered all over the place like mine?

These are things I've been asking myself ever since we moved here. My heart is with my husband and my kids and I know they're happy here but a large part of me wants to move closer to my family, closer to where I grew up.

Sitting in our field this afternoon, listening to the bird-song and the happy noises of my kids playing, I knew, knew that we're going to be very happy living there. We're pouring so much of ourselves into this house that I know it's going to be beautiful, just what we need. I also know that we're going to find it very hard to move somewhere else as / when / if we decide to.

You know what? I'm okay with that. That's a big thing for me to say, I like to plan everything years in advance! But I am, I'm okay with not knowing things in the longer-term, not being able to answer the big questions right now, because I know that the in the shorter-term we're going to be happy and settled and I can't ask for more than that.
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 2008-02-17 @ 17:32:33
It's wherever I lay my hat . .

Trouble is . . I can't find it

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- - sminchin ^Pro
  - 2008-02-17 @ 17:40:58
  Damn, I meant to use that one too!
  My hats are in the cupboard by the door, does that mean I have to live in there?
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  - - deleted user (Visitor)
    - 2008-02-17 @ 17:44:12
    I'm afraid so . . unless of course you move them
    - - sminchin ^Pro
      - 2008-02-17 @ 17:54:31
      But where should I move them //to//? Now I'm all confused
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- Tentativeplotfinder
- 2008-02-17 @ 17:46:25
I've moved so much, it has to be "where I'm living", but I aslo know it's where I'd choose to be and with who I choose, if I could, which I can't.
- - sminchin ^Pro
  - 2008-02-17 @ 17:55:51
  Too many questions, not enough answers, eh?
  - - Tentativeplotfinder
    - 2008-02-17 @ 17:59:06
    Something like that.
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- faffajane ^Pro
- http://faffajane.blog.co.uk/
- 2008-02-17 @ 18:49:57
Home is where you feel that you can go to at the end of the day and love being there.

Home is difficult to find.

Home is where your family and loved ones are

My home is where my hubby and kids are, but here right now, is not home, it is just where we have stopped for now
- - sminchin ^Pro
  - 2008-02-17 @ 19:09:23
  "Just where we have stopped for now" - that's it, definitely. I'm hoping our new house will feel a lot more like home
  Nice to see you back - go and have a little looksy on my other blog, I put the new Bryan Adam's track on there a few days ago *yay*
  - - faffajane ^Pro
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    - 2008-02-17 @ 19:29:00
    Ooo will scuttle off and take a look
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- PurpleDragon
- 2008-02-17 @ 20:45:43
I'm glad you are finally starting to settle, Sarah. I know how hard it has been for you over these couple of years. There are a lot of variables about being happy where you live, I think actually //liking// the place you stay is a major part of that battle.
- - sminchin ^Pro
  - 2008-02-17 @ 21:04:00
  It has been hard, it's still hard, I find it so frustrating that I can't speak the language as well as I'd like. However, I think these house plans have really helped me get some perspective on the whole thing - I can't wait until it's all finished!
  - - PurpleDragon
    - 2008-02-18 @ 10:57:21
    The language will come, particularly while you are negotiating with the builders!
    - - sminchin ^Pro
      - 2008-02-18 @ 17:27:08
      Nah, they'll be Germans!
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        2008-02-18 @ 17:31:14
        
        Oh, well. A friend local to me just had her house built by Poles, and she can't speak a word, and they can't speak English. Has proven to be an interesting experience for her.
        
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        sminchin ^Pro
        
        2008-02-18 @ 18:02:43
        
        It'll be a Finnish log-house built by Germans in France
        
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        PurpleDragon
        
        2008-02-18 @ 19:08:22
        
        Of course it will! No easy options for our Sminch! A European home
        
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- ajnspencer ^Pro
- http://www.devonwallart.co.uk
- 2008-02-17 @ 20:53:11
Home is where the TV is...
- - sminchin ^Pro
  - 2008-02-17 @ 21:02:20
  In the corner over there then
  - - ajnspencer ^Pro
    - http://www.devonwallart.co.uk
    - 2008-02-17 @ 21:07:34
    Exactly
    - - sminchin ^Pro
      - 2008-02-17 @ 21:12:44
      Which, of course, will become a different corner when we move
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- sweetymon
- 2008-02-18 @ 15:06:23
I've been trying to answer that question too. I think that like you, as long as I'm settled and happy I'll feel at home. I dont know where it is but I know it's not where I'm at right now! x
- - sminchin ^Pro
  - 2008-02-18 @ 17:31:10
  We are the most happy and settled we've been in a long time and I know the house will make us feel even better but I still don't know if this is home, long-term.
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- nicola66
- 2008-02-18 @ 19:19:12
Wow what movement in your mind. Well done on feeling at peace with your commitment. I think you are right if you can be with your family and generally content in the way you live day to day - its "home".

No resolve in my life - I had told mine I would be leaving in July 2008 to go back to UK no matter what. Only fact was I hadn't really considered where I would go and how (money!). Can't live at my parents and I need to rent somewhere so need his help. He for his part since I told him last June (2007) that I was giving him a year hasn't believed me at all. "Why do you keep telling everyone you're leaving?" MEN. Finally, in January he realised I mean it and what has he done, gone and got a job offer for Dubai...............

Best wishes Sminch
- - sminchin ^Pro
  - 2008-02-18 @ 20:54:28
  I've realised how much we've got going for us here, I still want to move back to the UK at some point but I'm okay for now
  
  Sounds like you're still going through it, is he going to accept the job in Dubai? Would you consider going there with him?
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 2008-02-24 @ 08:10:49
Is home: where you were born/grew up/where your family is? Short answer, for me, in a word, is Yep! Not sure if I'm lucky or not, but in my life all three still firmly apply! Oh, and I'm planning to die here too! Though probably not for a while! James.
- - sminchin ^Pro
  - 2008-02-24 @ 11:48:48
  Wow, //I// count you as lucky. Much as moving around and living in different places has really widened my range of life-experiences, a large part of me would like to be back in my home town.
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